LUMINOUS WISDOM – SOPHIA ARTICLES

JUNE 2017 – JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE

IS IT ‘COURAGE’?   Written by Terrea Lynn Hendrickson

My Personal Growth journey began about 2001 and I had no idea what I was in for.  I only knew ‘something’ had to change.  By 2013, after many ups and downs, even I was surprised by my decision.  It was then that some of my friends were saying how courageous I was.

I had come to the realization that I had to leave my marriage, and I was choosing to move to another Province.  Was that being courageous?  ME? Courageous?  Webster says ‘courage’ is the ability to face danger without fear.  Wikipedia says it’s the ability and willingness to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty.

Some friends had recently given me a book titled “The Woman’s Book of Courage”.  In the Introduction, the author says “Courage is having the strength and willingness to overcome our resistance and do what we feel is right, even though it is difficult and/or we are afraid.  It takes tremendous courage to face our fears, though it is essential that we do.   For it is only when we free ourselves from the leg irons of fear, accepting and honoring the wisdom, strength, and beauty we inherently possess, that we can truly find the happiness we seek.”  THIS is what resonated with me.

For too long I lived in a place of fear.  Most who met/knew me got the impression of a confident, together gal.  And perhaps I was in some ways.  But like many others, I lacked self-esteem, self-worth and self-love.  Is it any wonder I’ve struggled with relationships!  I grew up believing that all I would ever do was get married and have children – for some strange reason I also believed I’d be ‘good’ at it!  It was about 2 years into my present (and 3rd) marriage that I got the 2 X 4 lesson – IT’S NOT ABOUT MARRIAGE OR THE MEN TERREA – IT’S ABOUT YOU!!!

And it’s been my mission since then to try and get to the bottom of it all.  I KNEW the work had to be with SELF.  How difficult that was going to be was beyond my comprehension.  And facing the ‘fears’ was really hard.  Fear of rejection.  Fear of abandonment.  Fear of judgement.  Fear of criticism.  Fear of failure.  Fear of being alone.  Fear of losing the love/acceptance of family.  WOW! That’s a lot of fears!

So perhaps ‘courage’ does fit.  It took BIG courage to face some of my family with my decision.  It took courage to resign from a job I had only started less than a year ago – a job that paid well and offered a pension.  And it took courage to speak my truth to my husband.  It was NEVER with the intention of hurting or disappointing anyone.  But an awakening to the importance of speaking my truth, listening to my heart and trusting my SELF.

Fear keeps you stuck.  Courage leads the way.

 

JULY 2017 – JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE

DISNEYLAND AND LITTLE T    Written by Terrea Lynn Hendrickson

When the idea of joining my family on a Disneyland vacation came up, it was the LAST place I had ever considered to vacation.  Big, loud, busy, and lots of concrete rather than a quiet beach and a good book?  However, the thought of creating memories with my grandchildren had me both optimistic and excited.  But not prepared for the overwhelming emotion and tears!

Barely inside the gates on Day 1, I am choking back tears and not sure why.   This place is called the happiest place in the world.  So many people – of all ages – from all over the world have come for THEIR piece of happy.

As I watch the faces of my grandchildren I see such joy.  REAL joy, and again I am choking on tears.  I am overwhelmed as I witness this and realize where it’s coming from – the Little T inside is sad that SHE – for whatever reason – cannot remember ever feeling that much joy.  As I watch the smiles on all the faces, I want to FEEL that joy and happiness inside myself and FOR myself.

The thought crosses my mind that maybe I need to see Disneyland through the eyes of Little T.  That could be difficult since it’s not often she comes out to play – it’s never been an easy thing to do!  But something tells me I must do just that to truly enjoy this holiday.  It was time to move beyond any shyness, any fear of looking silly, and just enjoy this opportunity.

I believe my hi-lite was lunch with the Princesses.  I was seeing them through Little T eyes and they were so beautiful I could barely sit still in my chair!  Little T wanted to scream with excitement!  Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d be in a room with Belle, Snow White, and Cinderella.  Again I was in awe and holding back the tears constantly.

The first day of Disneyland had both Little T and Big T exhausted.  What a day!  Perhaps this vacation was meant to awaken Little T – to allow the inner child to play.  I realized how sad it is that I have little memory of being child-like.  No memory of that little girl living freely, with excitement, anticipation and JOY – as ALL children should.  What I do remember is always wanting to be older – grown up – mature.

I wasn’t quite as prepared for the grown-up world as I thought I’d be.  It was quite a struggle at times to be mature and in control.  Having grandchildren has helped me relax more.  It began to feel safe and right to loosen up, to be a little sillier, to be on the floor playing.  I hope I’m able to teach them as much as they teach me.  Disneyland shook Little T awake and helped me to realize how important it is to see life through the eyes of a child.  Seriousness has its place but is definitely overrated.

terrealynn@gmail.com

807-407-7578

Ontario, Canada

 

AUGUST 2017 – JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE

 I GET TO CHOOSE       Written by Terrea Lynn Hendrickson

Once I’d arrived in Alberta, I found myself wondering whether I had really considered how many changes I would encounter when I made the decision to move from Ontario.  The milder winters would be an easy adjustment; however there were many other factors facing me.

Work being a priority; I knew it would be easy to go into fear based thoughts like who wants to hire a 59 year old?  How outdated are my skills?    OR I could ‘choose’ the other route and remind myself of the power of gratitude!  I ‘choose’ to believe my skills and personality are acknowledged and appreciated.  I ‘choose’ to believe I receive the most amazing opportunity!

A home comes to mind and yes I’d been blessed with a comfy home these past years – with lots of personal space with lovely things.  Obviously securing that perfect job opportunity would make all the difference.  And again, I ‘choose’ to believe the Universe is lining me up with the perfect living accommodations.  And as for all the lovely things – I ‘choose’ to realize it’s just stuff and really – how important is it?

Family was the bigger and more difficult consideration.  Both parents were aging.  I had 3 great sisters that I had shared so much with.  Sunday Family Dinner had been a ritual for as long as I can remember.  At this point, I ‘choose’ to know that Family Dinner will simply change.  I ‘choose’ to be near my grandchildren who lift me up.  I ‘choose’ to have my heart filled with their love and joy as we create new rituals.

Friends can be hard to say goodbye to.  I had been blessed to have many great friends in my life.  People who had loved and accepted me as I am, who had encouraged and supported me to follow my heart, and who I will be forever grateful for.  I ‘choose’ to know that friendships like this will survive time and distance.  I ‘choose’ to believe this is a wonderful opportunity I have to share my light with those I’ve yet to meet.  I ‘choose’ to know there will be more great friendships created that will add to my life.

As I settled into my Alberta life my heart and soul felt happy, confident and excited.  I welcomed and looked forward to my future.  Life REALLY is short – it really IS a small world – and I ‘choose’ to know that I am destined for greatness – as is everyone.  I know it’s there – my greatness – my authentic self.  And I anticipate that living in this greatness is going to be a blessing as well as a challenge. With this gift of ‘choice’ I am comforted knowing I can ‘choose’ to live up where I belong – I like it there!  It’s been a long time coming and I finally know that I really do get to ‘choose’ how to live my life.  Amazing – this gift of ‘choice’!

terrealynn@gmail.com

807-407-7578

Ontario, Canada

 

SEPTEMBER 2017 – JOURNEY BACK TO LOVE

 ON TRACK TO HAPPINESS       Written by Terrea Lynn Hendrickson

I suppose we each have our own idea of what ‘happiness’ is – or do we?  I’d been seeking my own happiness for as long as I could remember.  I believe my Soul knows happy – I believe it’s our natural state. So why was I searching for it!  Mahatma Gandi said: “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”  Referred to as ‘congruency’, I’d been introduced to this concept through my Meridian Tapping training. No congruency results in no change or growth.  I hadn’t connected MY personal happiness with MY congruency and I knew that my thoughts, words and actions had not been in harmony for most of my life.

Not so long ago I`d been told that happiness was illusive.  I simply could not accept that!  I’m not saying that I’d never felt happy.  There had been many events, occasions, people who had brought joy and laughter into my life.  MY biggest joys were the birth of my first child and the news that I was expecting my first grandchild.  When she arrived, I remember feeling REAL, TRUE JOY deep within.  I felt fulfilled!

I’d read Marcie Shimoff’s book ‘Happy For No Reason’. I then attended a workshop in Winnipeg where a mother/daughter team shared the teachings based on the book.  I’d also joined a private group to take part in Robert Holden’s ‘Happiness Now’ workshop.  There had been numerous other gurus, ALL offering tools or tips on achieving happiness.  So why is this something we have to be taught?  What is so hard about REMEMBERING this natural state?

LIFE and its examples, lessons, teachings, beliefs, memories – we learn by observing.  And we are human – we learn to take things personally and react. As women, many of us learned well how to take care of others.  Personally, I hadn’t given my own happiness much thought until later in life.  Whether it was a natural process or the Universe nudging me, I began to realize that MY happiness was important.  Allowing myself to let go of feeling selfish, I set out on a mission.  There was no overnight magic, no instant miracle; just a commitment to myself to discover and honour my truth.

It was research on authenticity that opened my eyes.  Being aware that we’re not living authentically is one thing.  Discovering and knowing your authentic self creates a desire to live your authentic self.  And THAT takes courage.  My heart and soul knew it was the right thing to do no matter how much my ego mind wanted to keep me in fear.  I knew it was necessary in order to get on track to happiness.  I had already been thinking my truth but it took practice to speak my truth, and more practice to BE my truth.   I still on occasion slip for one reason or another.  Mostly, I take great pride in knowing that only by living my authentic self, I remain on the track to/of happiness!

terrealynn@gmail.com

807-407-7578

Ontario, Canada